5 Stages of the Rekindle Program

A Key Mindset Shift for Rebuilding

Each rebuilding stage gives you the tools to answer critical challenges and stay committed to a productive plan.

At each stage you’ll gain actionable knowledge and new skills that make you more effective in the world and more attractive as a long-term partner.

But one key mindset shift is to do this growth for yourself, without attachment to the relationship outcome. This mindset shift is one of eight essential transformations you’ll learn in the Stabilization Stage:

Outcome Dependent -> Process Committed

It might seem paradoxical at first, but when you shift to pursuing your own goals as an independent operator, decoupled from what your partner is doing, this gives you the best chance to get your relationship back.

Don’t fall into the trap of doing growth work only to try and reattract your partner. This will sabotage your process and extend your reconciliation timeline.

The 5 stages are the map.

The modules within each stage are the boots-on-the-ground. They teach the essential skills and transformations you need to progress to reconciliation.

Here’s what the Rekindle program looks like: